Losing a loved one whether it be family, friend or pet is a devastating blow. A loss that can't be returned, a loss that leaves a gaping hole, a space that can't be filled. In the words of Charles Dickens
"And can it be that in a world so full and busy the loss of one creature makes a void so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of eternity can fill it up"
How we come to terms with a bereavement will be unique to each one of us, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. It may take the form of an outpouring of emotion, you may grieve in private, you may feel angry or guilty, hopelessness or despair, you may feel scared or uncertain about the future without them, you may even feel relief.
Grief has no timeline, you don't have to be "over it" in a short space of time. Some may lock that grief away as facing it is too painful. Day to day practicalities may take over as a way of coping, or you may want to talk about your loved one, remember the good times, keep their memory alive. You may have good days and bad days. These are all "normal" reactions to someone dying.
However what if you can't cope or adjust to life without that person? What if your struggling to accept that they are gone? What if the grief and pain aren't subsiding? Then it may be time to seek some help. No-one can bring that person back, life won't be the same as before, but talking can help you come to terms with your loss, help you rebuild your life around that void. Grief is one of the most difficult experiences we have to face but you don't have to struggle alone.
